Here’s a true story. I don’t remember where i found it. 🙁 But I know it’s true because I know people who experience these kinds of things. You probably do too. But if you don’t, that’s no indication that they do not happen. [I suppose some of us just need to get out more. 🙂 ]
I’ve added headings.
A WHITE MOTHER OF TWO BLACK CHILDREN
Racism exists. It is real and tangible. And it is everywhere, all the time.
When I brought my boys home they were the cutest, sweetest babies ever. Wherever we went, people greeted us with charm and enthusiasm. Well, not all people and not everywhere. But, to me, they were the “wacko” exceptions. I thought to myself, “Get over it.”
QUESTIONS ABOUT OUR YOUNG TEENAGERS
Now my boys look like teenagers. Black teenagers. They are 13. Let me ask you these questions.
- Do store personnel follow your children when they are picking out their Gatorade flavors? They didn’t follow my white kids.
- Do coffee shop employees interrogate your children about the credit card they are using to pay while you are in the bathroom? They didn’t interrogate my white kids.
- When your kids trick-or-treat, dressed as a Ninja and a Clown, do they get asked who they are with and where they live, door after door? My white kids didn’t get asked.
- Do your kids get pulled out of the TSA line time and again for additional screening? My white kids didn’t.
- Do your kids get treated one way when they are standing alone but get treated a completely different way when you walk up? I mean a completely different way. My white kids didn’t.
- Do shoe sales people ask if your kids’ feet are clean before sizing them for shoes? No one asked me that with my white kids.
- Do complete strangers ask to touch your child’s hair?
- Or ask about their penis size?
- Or ask if they are “from druggies”? No one did this with my white kids.
SAFETY CONCERNS WHITES SELDOM FEEL
- Did you tell your kids not to fight back because they will seen as aggressive if they stand up for themselves?
- Have you had to honestly discuss with your husband whether you should take your children to the police station to introduce them to the officers so they would know your children are legitimate members of your community?
- Have you had to talk to your children about EXACTLY what to say and not to say to an officer?
- Have you had to tell your children that the objective of any encounter with police, or security in any form, is to stay alive?
It never occurred to me to have these conversations with my white children. In fact, it never occurred to me for myself either.'All Lives Matter'offends black people because it isn’t true. Right now, in America, my black children are treated differently than my white children. “ALL LIVES MATTER” completely dismisses the near daily experience of racism.Click To Tweet
THEY WERE SAFE
There is no question that my boys have been cloaked in my protection when they were small. What I did not realize until now is that the cloak I was offering them was identification with my whiteness. As they grow independent, they step out from my cloak and lose that protection. The world sees “them” differently. It is sweet when they are adopted little black boys so graciously taken in by this nice white family. But when they are real people? Well, it is not the same. And they still look like little boys. What happens to them when they look like the strong, proud black men I am raising?
“ALL LIVES MATTER” IS JUST NOT TRUE
The reason why the phrase All Lives Matter is offensive to black people is because it isn’t true. Right now, in America, my black children are treated differently than my white children. So when you say “ALL LIVES MATTER” as a response to the phrase “BLACK LIVES MATTER” you are completely dismissing the near daily experience of racism for those with pigment in their skin, curl in their hair and broadness of their nose.
I DIDN’T BELIEVE THIS UNTIL…
- Samaritan Lives Matter – Jesus and Racism,
- The Trump Danger to many Christians is Real
- Fascism Appearing In America (says “The American Conservative” Magazine)
- John Paul II: Private Prayer and the Dangers of Public Life
- Something hurts in there. Can you feel it? We are all in this together.”,
- Remember Those in Prison